Counselling Connection

Counselling Connection

November 2018


Your Child’s social skills are important!

According to Amanda Morgan; Elementary children who demonstrated social competence were more likely to graduate from high school, go to college, get a job, and stay trouble free than those who showed a lower level of social competence.

5 Important Social Competencies

  1. How to play well with others. By playing with others, children learn to negotiate, problem solve, take turns, share and experiment. Making time for free play can help foster this skill.
  2. How to problem-solve. Children need time to practice problem solving.  To assist them in the process, ask your child to describe what’s going on, brainstorm solutions while trying one out. Let your child own the problem by asking, “What do you think you could do about that?”
  3. How to label and recognize feelings. Children who are perceptive to the emotions around them have to ability to get along with others better than those who are not. This skill can be fostered by calling attention to emotional cues and naming emotions. Reading story books and recognizing emotions is one way to teach this to children.
  4. How to be helpful. Requiring children to look beyond themselves and to notice the needs of others. Complimenting your child for helpful behaviours will encourage them to continue.
  5. How to control impulses. Practicing impulse control through delayed gratification is challenging at this stage of development because the ‘control’ part of the brain isn’t developed yet. It is important however to work on this skill. Pretend play is a great way to build this skill. Movement games that require a child to stop and go like Red light/Green light, Dance and Freeze, Simon Says.